Break Your Chain Part Six

What changed was not my chains, but my mind. I decided to become what I had never been. I decided to become what no one thought I could be. Even though the letter from the high school said I was not qualified, my mind said otherwise. I became the qualified student, without help, and without academic guidance. I was armed with one lesson – it’s impossible for you to fail. 

That’s an easy thing to say, no doubt. To actually believe that you cannot fail requires a fundamental transformation of who you are, regardless of who you have been. And here’s the rub, you won’t really know that you believe it until you take the risk that could look like failure. If you don’t take the risk – you will never know how powerful you really are. Ironically, when you have been changed by that belief, you won’t see the challenge as a risk – because it is impossible for you to fail.

Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.

 

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Break your chain Part Four

A new high school was being built in our city called, Health Careers High School.  They came to my junior high school to advertise in hopes of getting students to apply. They showed a video of young students walking around in white lab coats with stethoscopes hanging around their necks. “Wow!”  I thought. Finally, I had a vision of what I have been hoping for. I could just see myself walking around with a lab coat and a stethoscope around my neck. But there was one problem…I had to apply and qualify to be accepted. What made things worse was that the qualification was based on my grades…the chain got tighter.

With great hope, more like desperation, I applied. It’s funny how, though only being in the eighth grade, that some things can be so important–this was one of them. I didn’t just fill out the application and send in my transcript. I made the extra effort and called the new high school’s guidance counselor, and I begged. She was polite and said they would review my application. Then she said they would let me know in the form of a letter. I got off the phone, tears in my eyes, my heart heavy with disappointment. I felt betrayed, I felt that I betrayed myself–cheated myself out of a great future.

A few weeks later I received that letter.

Nervously, I ran to my room. I sat down on my bed and prayed, “God, please, please let them say, ‘Yes.'”  I opened the letter and it read, “Dear Darin,  thank you for your application to Health Careers High School. Your application does not meet the minimum requirements to be accepted into our program.  Feel free to apply again next year.” The chain never felt more real and final.

It is important to understand that just wanting something doesn’t cause that something to show up in your life. In fact, if you are causing a major transformation, it is going to require more than a wish or a want. You are going to have to develop a new level of commitment. You are going to have to commit to getting stronger, mentally and spiritually stronger. If you don’t get stronger, and develop a more disciplined and focused mindset, you will not be able to perform at the level you desire, nor at the level God expects for you to perform. Perhaps that little chain is not there just to hold you back, maybe it is there to help you develop your persistence muscles.

Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.

 

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Break your chain Part Three

 While in elementary school I performed very poorly-hardly ever making a grade higher than a D. This is not what I was capable of doing, it was what I believed I could do. My grades were so bad, that others started to believe that a D was the best I could do.  Their beliefs about me reinforced my own beliefs about myself--the chain grew heavier.

Through most of middle school most of my thinking had not changed. But there was one thing that changed…I decided I wanted to become a doctor.  My family and friends made jokes about me wanting to become a doctor. You see, by now they could only see the chain, not the strength in the elephant.

Listen, I get that there are some chains that you have never been able to break. I also know what it’s like when others lower their expectations of you because they have never seen you do any better. What might look like an opportunity for massive failure, just might turn out to be the opportunity for the miraculous manifestation of greatness, and the power of belief. You are not your past. You are much greater than the limitations and mistakes you’ve ever made. You only need one person to believe in you, that person is you.

Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.

 

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Break your chain part two

People tend to focus on what they know – this usually means their past. It is from their past that they forecast, paint, and produce their future.

Let’s free your imagination, shall we? If you were free to love yourself, what would that look like? How would you feel about waking up and starting your day? If you actually loved you, how would you feel as you headed out in the morning? Would you feel excited and full of adrenaline?

Do you believe that most people break their mental chains? Or, do you believe that most people live within the limits of the chains of unbelief?  Here’s a question I have for you, which one are you? Are you ready to break some chains in your life?  But wait, just before you answer that question… Don’t answer that question based on your past. Answer that question based on the future you’re committed to creating. The power is within you now.

Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.

 

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Break your chain part one

Most people have heard of the story of how elephants can be tied down by a thin chain and a small stick.The elephant’s body has more than enough strength to easily break the chain that ties him in place. The thing that is weak about the elephant is not his body, but his mind.When your mind is tied to a certain way of perceiving yourself and perceiving the world, it will limit your possibilities and how far you will go in life.

If you want to go further than where you are right now, you must break the chain that binds you, and hold you where you are. The chain that needs to be broken is your mind – your thoughts. If you believe things can change – things can change. If you believe your situation is temporary – then it is only a matter of time and you will see new life. My question to you is, “Are you willing to break your chain?

So how does an elephant, who’s been in the same position, and lifestyle his whole life, change his thinking? How can someone change their thinking, when they know no other way? The answer is one word – imagination. Even the Bible says, “Seize every imagination, and hold it to the obedience of Christ.” The obedience of Christ is simple, it is love and freedom.

Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.

 

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