Are you one of the ones who live life with your self perception on the back burner? Are you so busy that you have no time to think about who you are being? It is easy to lose a sense of who you really are in the busyness of life.
The danger of being that busy is that you become your work and potentially lose your self-worth. It is interesting how the highway gets filled early in the morning with people rushing – rushing to get to work. These same people, at the end of the day, are rushing to get home – rushing to leave work.
With thousands of people pressing their way through traffic, I wonder what’s on their mind. Are they excited about were there going? Or, are they already full of dread and stress?
I know what it’s like to lose yourself inside the demands of others. I know what it’s like to work through pain, both physically and mentally. I too have had to put on the mask that looks like I’m smiling, but behind the mask is despair.
This way of living is not the divine plan. It clearly states in Scripture that God’s plan for your life, in part, is not to harm you. Your Creator wants you to prosper – body, mind, and spirit. Are you too busy trying to keep up? Are you so busy trying to survive that prosperity doesn’t even enter your mind? Do you really think that God wants you to live this way?
The obvious question then is, “How else are we to live?”, “What else is there?” These are great questions. In fact, these questions are so important, that if you don’t answer them you could find yourself working yourself to death without ever having truly lived.
Working was part of the original plan of the creator. Struggling to survive and to make ends meet is contrary to the original plan – your divine design.
If you are unhappy or feeling incomplete, it is critical for you to address what is happening in your life. This task is a lot easier than you might think. Let me show you how it works…
First, divide your life into four sections:
Your spiritual life
Your social life
Your physical life,
And finally your mental life.
Don’t stress about the order of your list because you’re going to address all four categories. Now, answer this question for each category, “What are some activities that you can do in each category that make you feel good?”
Remember, if you don’t take the time to answer this question for each category, you may find that work is taking over your life – whether it is work outside of the home, or the work that you have to do at home. People who work from home, including stay-at-home moms, can also just as easily lose themselves in the busyness of daily life.
When you lose yourself in the busyness of daily life, you will find that you have nothing more to give. Your tank will be empty and you will not be able to give anymore to anyone else, including giving to yourself. Another term for this is called burnout. Trust me, I know, I have been so burned out that I was nothing more than a crispy critter, helpless to anyone – I couldn’t even help myself. This is why answering this question for these four categories is so important.
Do your best to come up with at least three things you can do in each category that help you feel happier, and more complete. It does not matter how simple, or seemingly insignificant the activity is. What matters is that you recognize that the activity helps you feel alive. Finally, I strongly urge you to implement an activity from each category, if not every day, at least every week. It is important that you do an activity from each category, or you will feel your life being out of balance – out of harmony. When you are out of balance, and not aligned it will be very difficult, if not impossible to discover your true purpose and calling in life.
Some examples of activities that can propel you into feeling more alive are:
Your spiritual life
Meditation, sacred text reading, attending spiritual renewal events, having a spiritual conversation with someone, contemplative prayer, reading a devotional book, or any book that helps you feel connected to the Divine.
Your mental life
Reading a good book, watching a television show that makes you laugh, or peaks your interest, challenging yourself to learn something new (My wife and I recently challenged ourselves to learn the alphabet backwards). While there was no practical value to learning the alphabet backwards, there was tremendous amounts of intrinsic value for stretching ourselves to accomplish something new together. You could also consider stepping outside to take in the view of a brilliant sky, catch up on current events – be informed, but not inundated.
Your physical life
This category, like all the categories, is different for everyone. So, always be sure to consult your physician to ensure the safety of your health. That said, you don’t have to run a triathlon to energize yourself physically. You could simply go for walk, you could do some exercising such as swimming, or simply do some stretching.
Your physical life also includes your physical space. This means tidying up where you live, maybe clean out the car, consider your workspace, perhaps getting an organizer could help. This doesn’t have to be hard, you could start with just making your bed after you wake up. In short, do your best to move, and do your best to address your living and working space.
Your social life
In the busy world that we live in we are often too busy, or too tired to spend time with friends. If you stay that busy you will discover that you will have fewer and fewer friends over time. While I am not saying that you have to throw a party every weekend, but you could take the time to make a call, send a text, “Just saying hello and how are you?” If you are reading this and you don’t have any friends, then perhaps it is time to make some new friends. You could also take the time to connect and reconnect with family members you haven’t spoken to for awhile.
Have courage, and don’t let the fear of rejection deter you from this important activity in your life. Even if you are a homebody, you are still a social being…find a way to connect. We live in a world where technology has made it unbelievably easy to connect with friends and family, and even meet new people – and you can do this without ever having to leave your house! The point is be careful not to be too busy for life.