Your Darinism…Pain’s purpose

There are two types of pain: the pain that breaks you, and the pain that makes you. The difference between the two is you. Only you can decide if your pain will break or make you. It doesn’t matter where the pain comes from, nor how painful the pain is, you  make the final decision. The victim is the one who breaks down. The victor is the one who, in-spite of the pain, breaks through. Pain is the opportunity to showcase either your greatest weakness, or your greatest strengths. You decide. 

If you are in the habit of showcasing your weakness, now is the time to develop your strengths. The first step to develop your strength is to change your source of belief. Instead of believing that life is simply hard, take on believing that your pain has a purpose. Choose to believe the ridiculous notion that your pain was specifically designed for you. Believe that you have been chosen for a particular mission. This mission requires a specific training-a training that includes your pain. 

Pain is supposed to hurt. Hurting doesn’t have to mean that something is wrong. What if hurting meant that something was right? Consider, if your body did not experience pain, doctors would say something was wrong. Instead of seeing pain as something wrong, see pain as an indicator that shows you where to put your focus. You may not be able to control your pain, but you can control your perception of what pain means. You are a meaning making machine. Your ability to control the meaning of your pain outweighs the circumstance of your life. Which pain will you choose today, the kind that breaks you, or the kind that makes you?  Choose to have pain make you by creating a new meaning for the pain in your life. 

 Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.

 

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Your Darinism…Are you ready?

Are you ready? I’m not talking about for Thanksgiving. I’m not talking about for Black Friday. And, no, I’m not talking about for Christmas or New Year’s. Are you ready for the rest of your life? Don’t know? Then the answer is, no. When I ask my clients this question sometimes they respond with, “That depends on what the rest of my life looks like.” That tells me where to start coaching. You can do more than just wait to see what happens. You can be the cause of what happens. Your future can turn out just as you intend.

You can choose to drag on, day-after-day, surviving until the weekend for the rest of your life. Or, you can commit to making next year be your greatest year, yet. You don’t have the option of not making the choice. Even if you choose to do nothing, you’ve made a decision. Every decision has an outcome. You often don’t realize your decision until you are faced with the outcome-remember, hindsight is 20/20. I am drawing your attention to foresight, instead. It’s time for you to be the weatherman of your life. What’s the forecast of you? Unlike the weather woman, your forecast of you is more dependable. Why? Because you control the weather of your life. I know thisf sounds ridiculous. Regardless, it’s true.

The greatest philosophers and teachers agree that you create your reality. If you don’t believe in philosophy, turn to the precepts of your faith and you will find the same truth. “As a person thinks in their heart, that is who they become.” You can speak things that don’t exist now, and as long as you believe, those things will manifest in your life. I invite you to start believing, and start speaking a wonderful life forecast for 2015. Don’t wait until 2015 to start creating 2015’s weather. Start creating by speaking a positive future today. Take the challenge-today, create an uplifting conversation about your future!

 Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.

 

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Your Darinism…Getting chopped…

My wife and I enjoy watching the show “Chopped”  on the food network. In case you haven’t seen it, it is a show that features for competing chefs. The chefs are given a mystery basket, which contain items of food from which they are to create a great meal for the judges. The chefs  compete in three rounds-appetizer, entrée, and a dessert round. At the end of each round the judges choose the worst dish, and the chef who made that dish gets eliminated – chopped.

Has life treated you like you are a contestant fighting not to get chopped? Do you ever wake up wondering what’s in your mystery basket for the day? I do. Ever questioned if you had it in you to get through another potentially chaotic day? I have. It is while the chefs are being introduced that Wendy and I try to guess who of the chefs will not get chopped. I’ve learned that it is not always the most cocky nor the most experienced that go un-chopped. It seems that the one who is most willing and flexible to be as creative with what they are given-no matter what’s in the basket, make it to the end unchopped.

 

Today, how creative are you willing to be? How flexible will you be with what shows up in your life? How determined are you not to get chopped? Remember, you were chosen to be here on the show of life because you have it within you to make it without getting chopped. So, today, show your stuff!

 

The race is not given to the swift, nor the battle given to the strong, but the one that endures to the end shall be saved.

 

 

 

Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.

 

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Your Darinism…Extra time?

Have you ever said, “There’s never enough time in the day.” Have you wanted to do something different, but felt like you didn’t have the time? Do you really need more time? Really? Let’s tease this out…

Activity            # of hours

 Total                      168

Work                          40

Sleep                          56

Shower                      14

Eat                              14

Clean                        14

Driving                     7

Fam/Soc                 7

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Extra Time          16 hours!

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Obviously, I was liberal with the time allocated to some of these activities. Even if you changed the hours around, you will end up with somewhere around 15hrs of extra time. You had this all along. The big question is, what have you been doing with the 15 extra hours? If you have not made good use of the extra 15 hours you already have, “gaining” another hour this weekend (for those who did gain an hour-there are some places where the time doesn’t change) will make little to no difference in your life. Well, you might get extra credit for showing up at church an hour early! 

 

Think about all of the things you could get done in 15 hours…books you could read, the quality time you could spend with friends and loved ones, the education you could achieve, the time you have to workout, the time you would have for meditation, etc… No matter how you calculate it, chances are you have extra time. You could also waste time fighting, being stressed out, vegging out in front of the TV, etc… Whatever you decide to do with your time-maximize what you have while you have it. 

 

I offer you a challenge…take on making positive use of this hour you’ve “gained”. If you are one of the ones who don’t change time, I challenge you to find one hour where you could do something positive. If you don’t do something with the hour you “gained” then have you really gained anything? 

 

“Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that’s the stuff that life is made of.” – Benjamin Franklin

 

Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.

 

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Know your own significance

Have you ever asked yourself, “Do I matter?” or “What difference does it make that I am here?” The universe is so big, and the world seems so crazy, that it’s easy to question your own significance. But, be careful with that line of questioning. To question your own significance is to, on some level, deny your significance. The truth? You are significant, and you do matter. Furthermore, because you do matter, what you do matters and has a significant impact. The impact you make occurs even when you can’t detect it.
When, in 1963, Edward Lorenze presented his hypothesis to the Academy of Science in New York, he was literally laughed out of the conference. Lorenze’s idea was simple, in fact, too simple to believe. It stated that:
A butterfly could flap its wings and set molecules of air in motion, which would move other molecules of air, in turn moving more molecules of air-eventually capable of starting a hurricane on the other side of the planet. He called it the Butterfly Effect.
Even now, fifty years later, the notion seems a bit farfetched. Nonetheless, thirty years after Lorenze’s hypothesis, a team of science professors calculated that the Butterfly

Effect was accurate. Just because something seems unlikely doesn’t make it untrue.
When in those times you feel most insignificant, remember the Butterfly’s wings. Your Creator has given you a set of wings too. You have the ability to set off a chain reaction resulting in greatness. This greatness can only be caused by flapping your wings. Keep flapping, even when you think nothing is happening. Though you can’t see it yet, you are causing something. It is impossible to move without causing something else to move–like molecules. Today, move the world with your wings, and watch it move with your faith.
Anything is possible,
Darin M. Sanders, M.Div.