Worst Present Ever Darinism

The reason I waited this late to send out this Darinism is because, by now, you’ve probably have opened all of your gifts, except for maybe one…

What do you think the worst present ever is? When you open the present and find one old, funky sock? Nope. Perhaps the worst present is a box you’ve opened and found nothing but trash. Nope. Oh, wait, maybe it’s the gift that you open and find nothing at all. Nope, that’s not the worst present ever. There is a worst present ever, and chances are you’ve received it.

Not to worry, there’s something you can do about it. Certainly, you can think of all sorts of gifts that might qualify as the worst gift ever, but none of those is worse than this one. THE WORST PRESENT EVER IS THE ONE YOU DON’T OPEN. What? Yep, that’s it. The worst present ever is the one you leave all wrapped up, leaving it to sit yet for another year. The unopened present is YOU.

God has placed a wonderful gift within you…have you opened it? God did more than just put the gift in you, God tells you about it, “the Kingdom of heaven is within you.” God also describes the gift within you as being, “great.” How can something great become the worst gift ever? The greatest diamond is worthless until it is pulled from the ground and polished. There’s greatness in you that is as great as your imagination.

Keep this in mind…the word present means to present something, as in presentation. The present is when you re-present the greatness God has given you. Please, don’t let the best gift ever become the worst. Open up and see what God has placed inside you.

Live Inspired,

Darin M. Sanders, M.Div.

Your Life Coach

Your Darinism…Pain’s purpose

There are two types of pain: the pain that breaks you, and the pain that makes you. The difference between the two is you. Only you can decide if your pain will break or make you. It doesn’t matter where the pain comes from, nor how painful the pain is, you  make the final decision. The victim is the one who breaks down. The victor is the one who, in-spite of the pain, breaks through. Pain is the opportunity to showcase either your greatest weakness, or your greatest strengths. You decide. 

If you are in the habit of showcasing your weakness, now is the time to develop your strengths. The first step to develop your strength is to change your source of belief. Instead of believing that life is simply hard, take on believing that your pain has a purpose. Choose to believe the ridiculous notion that your pain was specifically designed for you. Believe that you have been chosen for a particular mission. This mission requires a specific training-a training that includes your pain. 

Pain is supposed to hurt. Hurting doesn’t have to mean that something is wrong. What if hurting meant that something was right? Consider, if your body did not experience pain, doctors would say something was wrong. Instead of seeing pain as something wrong, see pain as an indicator that shows you where to put your focus. You may not be able to control your pain, but you can control your perception of what pain means. You are a meaning making machine. Your ability to control the meaning of your pain outweighs the circumstance of your life. Which pain will you choose today, the kind that breaks you, or the kind that makes you?  Choose to have pain make you by creating a new meaning for the pain in your life. 

 Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.


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Your Darinism…Are you ready?

Are you ready? I’m not talking about for Thanksgiving. I’m not talking about for Black Friday. And, no, I’m not talking about for Christmas or New Year’s. Are you ready for the rest of your life? Don’t know? Then the answer is, no. When I ask my clients this question sometimes they respond with, “That depends on what the rest of my life looks like.” That tells me where to start coaching. You can do more than just wait to see what happens. You can be the cause of what happens. Your future can turn out just as you intend.

You can choose to drag on, day-after-day, surviving until the weekend for the rest of your life. Or, you can commit to making next year be your greatest year, yet. You don’t have the option of not making the choice. Even if you choose to do nothing, you’ve made a decision. Every decision has an outcome. You often don’t realize your decision until you are faced with the outcome-remember, hindsight is 20/20. I am drawing your attention to foresight, instead. It’s time for you to be the weatherman of your life. What’s the forecast of you? Unlike the weather woman, your forecast of you is more dependable. Why? Because you control the weather of your life. I know thisf sounds ridiculous. Regardless, it’s true.

The greatest philosophers and teachers agree that you create your reality. If you don’t believe in philosophy, turn to the precepts of your faith and you will find the same truth. “As a person thinks in their heart, that is who they become.” You can speak things that don’t exist now, and as long as you believe, those things will manifest in your life. I invite you to start believing, and start speaking a wonderful life forecast for 2015. Don’t wait until 2015 to start creating 2015’s weather. Start creating by speaking a positive future today. Take the challenge-today, create an uplifting conversation about your future!

 Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.


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Where’s your focus?

Everyone has two natures. In theology, we often refer to these two natures as one being the Adamic (limited) nature, and the other being your divine or Christ-like nature. One of these natures wants you to advance while the other wants to pull you back.

The one that you cultivate and concentrate on decides what you are in the end. Both natures are trying to gain control. Your will alone decides the issue. A person by the supreme effort of the will may change their whole career and almost accomplish miracles. You can be if you will to be, for will can find a way or make one.

The challenge with this concept is that many confuse the will with the want. Will and want are not the same thing. Want comes from the premise of lack and not having something. Will comes from the premise of determination and causality. One of these will win – you will either want and not succeed, or you will succeed. Every day you are faced with making this decision. Today, what will you choose?

We could easily fill a book of cases where people were just seemingly going about their day, were all at once aroused and, as if awakened from a slumber, they develop possibility within them and from that time on are a different person. You alone can decide when the turning point will come.

It is a matter of choice whether you allow your divine nature to control you or whether you will be controlled by the Adamic (limited) nature within you. No one has to do anything they don’t want to do. They are therefore the director of their life. What you end up doing, is the result of your focus. You, like everyone else, are like putty, and can be completely controlled by your focus, and concentration power.

Your mind is malleable – it can and will change. The real question is, “What are you molding – making of yourself?” Like everything in the universe, the will is spinning and the clay is turning, and you are being formed. What form will you take?

It is interesting that the Potter uses both centrifugal force, which is pressure, and water as tools for forming. Theologically speaking, water is a symbol for word. So, in essence you are being formed by pressure and word.

A good way to tell how you are handling the pressure is by the words you speak. These words represent information IN-FORM-ATION…in other words, the action that is forming inside of you. Today, what words will you choose? Incidentally, we are reminded in the Bible that the power of life and death are in the tongue.

Anything is possible!


We choose to keep fighting

Last night my wife and I had a conversation about the fact that the doctors think I have MS. We had a conversation as to what this means for our immediate, and distant future. It was clear that we both were experiencing fear. For the most part, fear comes from not knowing. In our case, we didn’t know how long the current paralysis is going to last, nor do we know if the paralysis will extend further into other areas of my body, for example my eyes again.

So we had to get clear about what we were facing. The reality is that we are not facing the physical ailment itself. What we are facing is fear. If we were facing the physical ailment, we would take action that would address the ailment. Since we don’t know what the ailment is going to do, the only thing we have to face is fear. Sense we are not sure about the outcome, there are only two possibilities. Either the condition will advance, or the condition will abate.

With that, we are given a choice to believe one or the other. We still have to face the reality of fear. This is important because, the Bible reminds us that people perish for a lack of knowledge. So my wife and I had to discuss what it is we know. Here’s what we know: a few years ago, I went completely blind. The doctors thought that I would never regain my site. We know they were wrong. A few months ago, we did not know if I would be able to walk again. We know now I can walk. A few days ago, we knew I had little feeling in my legs. We know now that I have complete feeling in my legs. Currently, we know that I have some paralysis in my left hand. We also know, because of prior experience, that paralysis is not permanent. So now our choice is clear.

We can either choose the path of sickness, paralysis, and death; or we can choose the path of life. If the condition can come and then go, it is possible for the condition to be gone. This is what we know. Last night we made a choice to take the path of life. And this morning for the first time in a long time, I put on my tennis shoes and tied them myself! Okay, it does look kind of like my one-year-old tied them, but they are tied nonetheless. We choose to keep fighting!