How to create happiness…

First, you have to decide to which group you belong: to the ones who are happy, or to the ones who are not happy. For the sake of time, let’s include those who are unhappy in with the not happy folks. Secondly, regardless of the group you chose, you are in that group by choice. The word happy suggests the state of pleasure and gladness. These states of mind are often associated to external circumstances. This is the reason I don’t often use the word happy. I don’t like the idea of being held to my circumstance. But, if you take ownership of your circumstance-even if it’s not your fault, you will discover power. Knowing that you have the power to respond to anything from a place of greatness will evoke an experience of happiness. Being happy by choice is an experience no one can take from you. Finally, you can share that happiness with someone else. This has you be both the creator of happiness and its multiplier. Will you create happiness today?

Your Quick Strategy for Life Balance

How do you begin solving a jigsaw puzzle? You start with the four corners. The corners are unique, and are easily distinguished from the other pieces. Life is like a (no, not a box of chocolates) a jigsaw puzzle–you’ve got to locate your key corner “stones” pieces. What would you identify as
four key pillars in life? These pillars have to be such that everything else works together, and makes sense because of them. What four key principles make life make sense for you? How did these pillars serve your life this year?

 

it seems crazy that so many people work tirelessly, as if that were possible, and end up with emptiness and dissatisfaction. There are many people who have full pockets, but empty hearts. There is a better way. No matter what you do, you will always be left with 168 hours in a week. All the time management in the world will still leave you void, if you’ve failed to give just due to the pillars of life, whatever they may be.

 

Are you spending 80% of your time on things that only give you a 20% return? That is tragic when you could be spending 20% of your time on things that give you an incredible 80% return. How’s that possible, you ask? Strategy, that’s how. Consider managing your priorities as a way of managing your time. Time management focuses on the 168, while priority management primarily focuses on the key (four) pillars in your life. if you don’t know what the (four) key pillars are, it helps to group your life into four areas: mental, physical, spiritual, and social for example.

 

Finally, when you plan your week, make sure you’ve allocated time (energy) for each area. The amount of energy you commit to each area will change depending on the happenings of that week. What’s important is to invest energy, even if only a little, in each area. This will help you maintain a balance beyond just work and home. THINK ABOUT IT, AND THEN BE ABOUT IT.

Something Good

A man once asked, “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?” suggesting that little, if any, good thing could come from there. The narrative of Jesus’ birth is commonly known, but did you know that Nazareth was an assignment? The desolate place of Nazareth was part of the original plan. Why? Perhaps God likes to show off? Maybe. The Divine chose a woman (girl) with a womb which was void. Even when people expect little from you, great things are still possible.
Genesis 1:2, “and the earth was void and without form…” this is consistent with places God finds attractive. It was in the darkness that God spoke, “Let there be light…” the word of God became brilliant light.  Before the Nazareth question, Jesus was called, “the Word.” This means the good thing coming out of a dark place was WORD.
The message is that your word(s) must come out of a dark place before your life comes out. Your word(s) must vacate voidness before your bank account moves into abundance. When you surround yourself with positive conversations, you empower your perception. Say something good and you just may see something good! THINK ABOUT IT THEN BE ABOUT IT.
THAT IS ALL; CARRY ON.

Letting the past go

While there are unavoidable religious tones to this article, its truth is far removed from religion. Traditional perceptions get in the way of new and empowering revelations. Please read this article from a place of personal reflection, and not from a religious mindset.

Remember, in yesterday’s email, I wrote of three phases to Passover: Death, Burial, and Resurrection. Let’s talk about the second phase of Passover, which is Burial. After the first phase (Death), it is important to complete the second phase of burying that which is dead. I remember a story about a little girl who asked her father at a funeral one day, “Why are the people still hanging around here at the cemetery when the service is already done?” Her father replied, “It’s because some people have a hard time letting go.” How would you have answered the little girl’s question?

Most prehistoric humans believed that by burying their dead, they were helping the departed cross over into the new life. They believed in this new life after burial so much so, that they often buried weapons, food, and even horses and pets to be with their departed loved ones in the other world.

While today, we don’t bury our dead with cars and pets, we still have similar beliefs. Most of the world’s population believes in life after death. So, after thousands of years practice, what have we learned — letting go. When we bury the departed, we, in a way, are removing them from our sight. When we turn to leave the cemetery, it is our way of saying goodbye. Depending on your beliefs, you might be saying goodbye forever, or you could be saying goodbye for now.

While it is understandable that people have a hard time letting go, it is still critical to do so in order to reach the third phase of Passover. The apostle Paul reminds us, “but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” Now how does this apply when the departed is you?

When you bury the old, disempowered you, you are putting the past behind you. It is not so much like burying something, but planting a seed. You put the seed into the ground, the outer shell of the seed falls away, and makes room for the new life to come sprouting up. Burying the old you means walking away from an old identity — an identity that has not served you well, or as well as you deserve.

This weekend, I invite you to put some things behind you, so you are freed to move forward with your life. This may look like burying anger and bitterness, or like letting go of regret. Perhaps there has been pain in the past that has plagued you for years; well, it’s time to let it go and walk away. Keep in mind, you are walking away empty-handed because you have buried a seed. Your new belief is that past pains will turn into peace. You now await your victory to overshadow your regrets. You are walking away knowing that what you are feeling will be the worst you will feel and it will only get better. You free and empower your future by letting go of your past.

Just as the disciples walked away from Jesus’ tomb believing something good may come of it, what will you walk away from? What new expectations will you create for yourself now that your past is buried away? Letting go is not the easiest thing to do, but it is a critical step in experiencing the resurrection of your new life.

Darin Sanders  ~Life Coach in Texas~

Your Darinism…Pain’s purpose

There are two types of pain: the pain that breaks you, and the pain that makes you. The difference between the two is you. Only you can decide if your pain will break or make you. It doesn’t matter where the pain comes from, nor how painful the pain is, you  make the final decision. The victim is the one who breaks down. The victor is the one who, in-spite of the pain, breaks through. Pain is the opportunity to showcase either your greatest weakness, or your greatest strengths. You decide. 

If you are in the habit of showcasing your weakness, now is the time to develop your strengths. The first step to develop your strength is to change your source of belief. Instead of believing that life is simply hard, take on believing that your pain has a purpose. Choose to believe the ridiculous notion that your pain was specifically designed for you. Believe that you have been chosen for a particular mission. This mission requires a specific training-a training that includes your pain. 

Pain is supposed to hurt. Hurting doesn’t have to mean that something is wrong. What if hurting meant that something was right? Consider, if your body did not experience pain, doctors would say something was wrong. Instead of seeing pain as something wrong, see pain as an indicator that shows you where to put your focus. You may not be able to control your pain, but you can control your perception of what pain means. You are a meaning making machine. Your ability to control the meaning of your pain outweighs the circumstance of your life. Which pain will you choose today, the kind that breaks you, or the kind that makes you?  Choose to have pain make you by creating a new meaning for the pain in your life. 

 Anything is Possible!

Darin Sanders, M.Div.

 

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