Do’s & Don’ts On Valentine’s Day

Well folks, it’s that time of year again – Valentine’s Day. I won’t waste your time giving you a history lesson about its origin—that won’t change the fact that it’s still coming. Interestingly, whether you are in a romantic relationship or not, the holiday still has an impact on you. Well, no worries, I’m here to help. I’ve been through my fair share of Valentine’s Days. Some were fabulous (If I do say so myself), while others were so bad that they are still too embarrassing to talk about. Here are a few lessons:

  1. No matter what you think or were taught, this is her day. Does she get more days than you? Yes, but that’s not the point. Just go with it, you will be the better for it in the end.
  2. If you are reading this and you haven’t started planning yet, you’re late. Get with the program!
  3. Even if she says, “Oh, I don’t want anything,” know that she’s been trained to say that. The fact is, she does want something. Moreover, she is expecting something.
  4. If you’re like me and went all out at the beginning, creativity is your only salvation. More about that later…
  5. Warning! This is not a good week to have an argument with her. If you win, then your Valentine’s gift is simply repayment for the damages rendered. No fighting this week, got it?
  6. Learn to take your game to the next level. Think about how many guys will be running around, grabbing leftover flowers, and begging for a table at a crowded restaurant. PLAN AHEAD!
  7. If you do go out to dinner, know that everyone there is doing the same thing you are doing. What does this mean? At this point, you’re average. Think outside the box. You have to learn to surprise her. Roses are no longer surprising—even if you’ve never given them before. Roses are typical.
  8. Here’s how to score big points—the little things. Yep, you heard it. I’m talking about the way you hold her hand—NOT like you’re trying to get your freak on! Hold her hand firmly, but not too firmly. Hold it just enough to let her feel a MAN has her hand.
  9. TALK! Say something more than, “What do you want to eat?” Remind her of how you met—no matter how crazy the story is. Let her know, that if all the stars in the sky went dark, her brilliance would be enough to light the world. She is the light of your life; make her feel it.
  10. Do your best to stay away from discussions that lead to arguments. Again, this is not the week to win in the argument ring.
  11. Most of all, there is no gift more precious than your heart, time, and undivided attention. Lend her your ears. Don’t just listen to what she says, feel her heart. That’s a gift that doesn’t cost a dime, my friend. By the end of the night, she will know that you love her with all your Mind, Body, and Spirit.

If you are single, you are not forgotten on Valentine’s Day, though it can sometimes feel that way. Here are a few tips for you, too:

  • Lying in bed with Ben & Jerry (I’m talking about the ice cream!) while watching Sleepless in Seattle isn’t going to help. You’re better than that.
  • Valentine’s Day is a day about love, yes, but not just romantic love. It is about giving and receiving love from those for whom you hope for the best and for whom you wish the best in return.
  • This is a day you too can celebrate. Come up with creative ways to celebrate the love of family and friends—and most importantly, love for yourself.

If you are a single parent, this is a perfect time to teach your little one(s) how to love and respect, who and how they are right now. They are beautiful just the way God made them and they don’t need cheep chocolate to know how special they really are. I put my one-year-old daughter in front of the mirror so she can see how beautiful she is. I remind her that she is gorgeous and how awesome she really is. Even at one, she giggles, as if to say, “I hear you, daddy.”

God’s love is universal and should be shared universally. While, as social beings, we experience challenges with each other, it is important to remember that God is love—the love for you and within you.

Let me know if this was helpful or if you have or need additional tips!