four key pillars in life? These pillars have to be such that everything else works together, and makes sense because of them. What four key principles make life make sense for you? How did these pillars serve your life this year?
While there are unavoidable religious tones to this article, its truth is far removed from religion. Traditional perceptions get in the way of new and empowering revelations. Please read this article from a place of personal reflection, and not from a religious mindset.
Remember, in yesterday’s email, I wrote of three phases to Passover: Death, Burial, and Resurrection. Let’s talk about the second phase of Passover, which is Burial. After the first phase (Death), it is important to complete the second phase of burying that which is dead. I remember a story about a little girl who asked her father at a funeral one day, “Why are the people still hanging around here at the cemetery when the service is already done?” Her father replied, “It’s because some people have a hard time letting go.” How would you have answered the little girl’s question?
Most prehistoric humans believed that by burying their dead, they were helping the departed cross over into the new life. They believed in this new life after burial so much so, that they often buried weapons, food, and even horses and pets to be with their departed loved ones in the other world.
While today, we don’t bury our dead with cars and pets, we still have similar beliefs. Most of the world’s population believes in life after death. So, after thousands of years practice, what have we learned — letting go. When we bury the departed, we, in a way, are removing them from our sight. When we turn to leave the cemetery, it is our way of saying goodbye. Depending on your beliefs, you might be saying goodbye forever, or you could be saying goodbye for now.
While it is understandable that people have a hard time letting go, it is still critical to do so in order to reach the third phase of Passover. The apostle Paul reminds us, “but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” Now how does this apply when the departed is you?
When you bury the old, disempowered you, you are putting the past behind you. It is not so much like burying something, but planting a seed. You put the seed into the ground, the outer shell of the seed falls away, and makes room for the new life to come sprouting up. Burying the old you means walking away from an old identity — an identity that has not served you well, or as well as you deserve.
This weekend, I invite you to put some things behind you, so you are freed to move forward with your life. This may look like burying anger and bitterness, or like letting go of regret. Perhaps there has been pain in the past that has plagued you for years; well, it’s time to let it go and walk away. Keep in mind, you are walking away empty-handed because you have buried a seed. Your new belief is that past pains will turn into peace. You now await your victory to overshadow your regrets. You are walking away knowing that what you are feeling will be the worst you will feel and it will only get better. You free and empower your future by letting go of your past.
Just as the disciples walked away from Jesus’ tomb believing something good may come of it, what will you walk away from? What new expectations will you create for yourself now that your past is buried away? Letting go is not the easiest thing to do, but it is a critical step in experiencing the resurrection of your new life.
Darin Sanders ~Life Coach in Texas~
The reason I waited this late to send out this Darinism is because, by now, you’ve probably have opened all of your gifts, except for maybe one…
What do you think the worst present ever is? When you open the present and find one old, funky sock? Nope. Perhaps the worst present is a box you’ve opened and found nothing but trash. Nope. Oh, wait, maybe it’s the gift that you open and find nothing at all. Nope, that’s not the worst present ever. There is a worst present ever, and chances are you’ve received it.
Not to worry, there’s something you can do about it. Certainly, you can think of all sorts of gifts that might qualify as the worst gift ever, but none of those is worse than this one. THE WORST PRESENT EVER IS THE ONE YOU DON’T OPEN. What? Yep, that’s it. The worst present ever is the one you leave all wrapped up, leaving it to sit yet for another year. The unopened present is YOU.
God has placed a wonderful gift within you…have you opened it? God did more than just put the gift in you, God tells you about it, “the Kingdom of heaven is within you.” God also describes the gift within you as being, “great.” How can something great become the worst gift ever? The greatest diamond is worthless until it is pulled from the ground and polished. There’s greatness in you that is as great as your imagination.
Keep this in mind…the word present means to present something, as in presentation. The present is when you re-present the greatness God has given you. Please, don’t let the best gift ever become the worst. Open up and see what God has placed inside you.
Darin M. Sanders, M.Div.
Your Life Coach
There are two types of pain: the pain that breaks you, and the pain that makes you. The difference between the two is you. Only you can decide if your pain will break or make you. It doesn’t matter where the pain comes from, nor how painful the pain is, you make the final decision. The victim is the one who breaks down. The victor is the one who, in-spite of the pain, breaks through. Pain is the opportunity to showcase either your greatest weakness, or your greatest strengths. You decide.
If you are in the habit of showcasing your weakness, now is the time to develop your strengths. The first step to develop your strength is to change your source of belief. Instead of believing that life is simply hard, take on believing that your pain has a purpose. Choose to believe the ridiculous notion that your pain was specifically designed for you. Believe that you have been chosen for a particular mission. This mission requires a specific training-a training that includes your pain.
Pain is supposed to hurt. Hurting doesn’t have to mean that something is wrong. What if hurting meant that something was right? Consider, if your body did not experience pain, doctors would say something was wrong. Instead of seeing pain as something wrong, see pain as an indicator that shows you where to put your focus. You may not be able to control your pain, but you can control your perception of what pain means. You are a meaning making machine. Your ability to control the meaning of your pain outweighs the circumstance of your life. Which pain will you choose today, the kind that breaks you, or the kind that makes you? Choose to have pain make you by creating a new meaning for the pain in your life.
Darin Sanders, M.Div.
Are you ready? I’m not talking about for Thanksgiving. I’m not talking about for Black Friday. And, no, I’m not talking about for Christmas or New Year’s. Are you ready for the rest of your life? Don’t know? Then the answer is, no. When I ask my clients this question sometimes they respond with, “That depends on what the rest of my life looks like.” That tells me where to start coaching. You can do more than just wait to see what happens. You can be the cause of what happens. Your future can turn out just as you intend.
You can choose to drag on, day-after-day, surviving until the weekend for the rest of your life. Or, you can commit to making next year be your greatest year, yet. You don’t have the option of not making the choice. Even if you choose to do nothing, you’ve made a decision. Every decision has an outcome. You often don’t realize your decision until you are faced with the outcome-remember, hindsight is 20/20. I am drawing your attention to foresight, instead. It’s time for you to be the weatherman of your life. What’s the forecast of you? Unlike the weather woman, your forecast of you is more dependable. Why? Because you control the weather of your life. I know thisf sounds ridiculous. Regardless, it’s true.
The greatest philosophers and teachers agree that you create your reality. If you don’t believe in philosophy, turn to the precepts of your faith and you will find the same truth. “As a person thinks in their heart, that is who they become.” You can speak things that don’t exist now, and as long as you believe, those things will manifest in your life. I invite you to start believing, and start speaking a wonderful life forecast for 2015. Don’t wait until 2015 to start creating 2015’s weather. Start creating by speaking a positive future today. Take the challenge-today, create an uplifting conversation about your future!
Darin Sanders, M.Div.